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Why give others a chance - Anton Fernando

Often people in our lives do or say things that we don't appreciate, be it a spouse, partners, children, friends, bosses, siblings, relatives, neighbors, co-workers, or even total strangers.
Sometimes we forgive, willing to let it go, but other times our reaction is harsh, unmerciful even downright cruel.  

As-if our patience is selective, our forgiveness is limited. 

Perhaps that raw emotions for revenge, that urge to make it even, is lot more stronger than any kindness we're willing to show. 

Revenge is linked to survival, it makes us feel strong and powerful inside, that ability to take revenge by 'crushing' another. 

Very rarely of course we seek revenge against our bosses at work, because that could mean a direct hit to the bottom line: money, income. 
If you have more power than your boss, then yes, you may walk away from the job as an act of revenge, in the hope it will hurt your boss.  

In the words of Gandhi, "an eye for an eye, makes the world go blind", how true is that.

Giving others a chance, even in the face of their wrongdoings, is a noble thing, you're giving them a moment, a rare chance to reflect on their actions. 
Perhaps knowing that there is no retribution for their bad actions, it may allow them to reflect and correct, like a real silent apology happens in their minds.  

Giving others a chance is also an act of kindness, which may have other benefits to their lives, that you may not readily notice. 

Perhaps, in a way, by giving others a chance, I am also giving myself a chance, because who knows what may come around.

Anton Fernando
Ottawa, Canada.
2020/02/02